She is all over the place. I don't know of one girl whom I've met that isn't. I'm not sure if this is a reflection of me, or if it's the randomness of girls. I think I'm accepting the randomness for what it is at this point. With the information that I have at hand, I'm going to enjoy our time together, but won't be surprised when she leaves because she's found the person that gives her butterflies.
>> , and are changing? As you change, you find that girls (and men) respond differently to you.
It also depends on what you're looking for... a lot of high consistency, high focus, goal-oriented girls want to be in relationships, and they get into relationships pretty fast. If they run into a guy who doesn't want the same, he doesn't make it far in their lives.
Highly inconsistent girls who want one thing on Tuesday and another by Thursday barely remember what they said or did on Tuesday. So they're available a lot, they're dating a lot, they're into a sex party one day but want a child the next.
It's possible to find girls who consistently and authentically want lots of sex with different men, but they're not super common.
I think you're getting out of the world a lot of what you're putting out into the world... if you want to date multiple women and have a lot of fun, the girls who are looking for consistency and consistent stability are going to vanish.
You're also in the big city, I think, and that's going to filter for the kinds of girls you meet. They're the ones who want adventures and exciting men.
These are generalizations and there are always exceptions to the generalization... but if you are looking to party, a lot of girls who aren't, and who are looking for something else, aren't going to spend much time trying to convince you otherwise. A few will. I've been there. But the pattern is clear.
Yea, that makes sense. I think my desire to date multiple women (even if it's just two consistently) and have experiences is stronger atm. I want a little variety and some consistency without having to always be gaming new leads. Perhaps these are conflicting wants.
I have noticed that the more relationship oriented girls keep their distance from me, but I also know they are watching me. At least one of the girls in this post - https://mddmonk.substack.com/p/lead-her-to-the-bridge has a boyfriend. I'm in light contact with both (which they initiate) even if there's nothing between us. The thing is I have to ask myself, do I really want to be in the boyfriend's position or do I want to be free/the guy she has fun with?
If I can reach a level where I can get these type of girls to be really into me, then I'd consider, but right now I think I'm probably better of having fun, even if it means sacrificing the consistency that I long for.
*>>"It comes out again that she likes me, but her feelings aren’t strong. She’s worried she will hurt my feelings she says."*
You're there, not me, but she sounds all over the place.
*>>"I don’t know what it is exactly, but it seems the girls I am choosing/that are choosing me are finally:
>>...
>>Things are changing. Let’s see what we make happen."*
Things are changing, or you have changed, and are changing? As you change, you find that girls (and men) respond differently to you.
>>she sounds all over the place.
She is all over the place. I don't know of one girl whom I've met that isn't. I'm not sure if this is a reflection of me, or if it's the randomness of girls. I think I'm accepting the randomness for what it is at this point. With the information that I have at hand, I'm going to enjoy our time together, but won't be surprised when she leaves because she's found the person that gives her butterflies.
>> , and are changing? As you change, you find that girls (and men) respond differently to you.
This. I am changing.
>> She is all over the place. I don't know of one girl whom I've met that isn't.
I also take this as a cue to keep working.
Some girls are more consistent than others.
It also depends on what you're looking for... a lot of high consistency, high focus, goal-oriented girls want to be in relationships, and they get into relationships pretty fast. If they run into a guy who doesn't want the same, he doesn't make it far in their lives.
Highly inconsistent girls who want one thing on Tuesday and another by Thursday barely remember what they said or did on Tuesday. So they're available a lot, they're dating a lot, they're into a sex party one day but want a child the next.
It's possible to find girls who consistently and authentically want lots of sex with different men, but they're not super common.
I think you're getting out of the world a lot of what you're putting out into the world... if you want to date multiple women and have a lot of fun, the girls who are looking for consistency and consistent stability are going to vanish.
You're also in the big city, I think, and that's going to filter for the kinds of girls you meet. They're the ones who want adventures and exciting men.
These are generalizations and there are always exceptions to the generalization... but if you are looking to party, a lot of girls who aren't, and who are looking for something else, aren't going to spend much time trying to convince you otherwise. A few will. I've been there. But the pattern is clear.
Yea, that makes sense. I think my desire to date multiple women (even if it's just two consistently) and have experiences is stronger atm. I want a little variety and some consistency without having to always be gaming new leads. Perhaps these are conflicting wants.
I have noticed that the more relationship oriented girls keep their distance from me, but I also know they are watching me. At least one of the girls in this post - https://mddmonk.substack.com/p/lead-her-to-the-bridge has a boyfriend. I'm in light contact with both (which they initiate) even if there's nothing between us. The thing is I have to ask myself, do I really want to be in the boyfriend's position or do I want to be free/the guy she has fun with?
If I can reach a level where I can get these type of girls to be really into me, then I'd consider, but right now I think I'm probably better of having fun, even if it means sacrificing the consistency that I long for.