Talk to Me Straight

Turkish Delight left my place not too long ago. In my previous post, I mentioned that I wasn’t sure about her. I had been spending a lot of time with her and her friends. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been enjoying myself, but I was worried that we weren’t on the same page. It turns out she was having the same worry, but it took me voicing my concerns for us to hash things out.

I told her, “Look, I enjoy our time with each other and I enjoy you including me in activities with your friends, but it’s draining for me.” We hadn’t been seeing each other much due to logistics, and when we did, friends were always involved. I might’ve pulled the trigger on this too early, but I told her if things continued like this, don’t expect me to hang around much longer. We agreed we needed to settle this in person, so she came over.

Her first concern sounded like she wanted to make sure that I wasn’t just using her for sex. Right now, I’m only sexing girls I like. I have been focusing on this topic (sex), because why not?! It’s an awesome topic. Who doesn’t like talking about sex and relationships? But also, as I explained to her - for me, it didn’t make sense to invest more than that since most of my previous interactions didn’t go anywhere. Why invest in someone that’s not going to stick around? I told her if she’s sticking around then sure, sex will be just one of the activities we will do, but I’m not particularly looking for activity partners. I’m looking for desire and to be desired. She says she enjoys sex, but could take it or leave it. She wants to get to know me beyond sex. I would like to get to know her beyond sex as well, however, I still want to establish the sexual aspect of our relationship first.

Then she mentioned that she thinks my feelings and intentions for her are much greater than hers. It comes out again that she likes me, but her feelings aren’t strong. She’s worried she will hurt my feelings she says. I think because I carry myself a certain way, women still automatically assume that I’m an innocent, straight-laced guy. I used this opportunity to show her otherwise. Turkish Delight also repeatedly said she’s very direct, and wants me to be straight with her. So I open the conversation up some more. “How direct and honest do you want to be with each other? For example, if you’re seeing someone else or I’m seeing someone else would you want to know?” She says, “Yes.”

So I told her about La Amazona. I asked her if she would be open to meeting her. Turns out she is! But I think it might take some time for La Amazona. She’s a jealous one.

Prior to this, Turkish Delight told me about a girl that hit on her in a bar the last time we were out. Apparently, she told the girl, “here’s our number.” Signaling to the girl that she’d be down to meet again with me in the mix. Who knows if the girl will contact TD though? She also told me about another potential date she might have with a guy. After we shared all of this, she let out a sigh of relief. She was relieved we were on the same page, and I think she finally realized I’m a sexy man or a sexy man in the making. I am also realizing there’s a lot more to Turkish Delight than what meets the eye.

And yes. We made sweet Turkish/Island luv after this conversation.

I don’t know what it is exactly, but it seems the girls I am choosing/that are choosing me are finally:

• Seeking the same things I’m seeking

• Believe who I am and who I tell them I am a lot more. Previously, girls would laugh or look at me in disgust if I said I wanted to be with multiple women or even hinted at it. Now if/when I tell them they are not surprised. I don’t know, it might even excite them.

Things are I am changing. Let’s see what I make happen.