I did not use that word! "weight might be a big challenge / blockage" can be seen as equivalent, but I can phrase things more delicately...
The general debugging point is to start with the easy or obvious stuff and move on from there. In game terms, while working on the interpersonal (approaches, banter, cold reads, etc.), it is also useful to check weight / fashion / posture / etc.
Success is sometimes a matter of fixing a series of problems.
Getting better girls usually means a guy raising his own value. Sometimes it means the guy having something extraordinary about him... could be fame, wealth, social skills, local status (he's a locally known DJ, whatever). Pay attention to guys with hot chicks, especially a succession of hot chicks, and there is almost always something extraordinary in one domain, or he's above average in a bunch of domains, including social skills, fearlessness in the face of rejection, etc.
Every guy I'm aware of who has tried online dating and cold approach finds higher quality from meeting girls in real life. The exception might be super photogenic chads who can do either but the # of super photogenic chads is small.
Many of the best chicks I've ever been with have said that they have never done online. Huge adverse selection problem with online, particularly 25+.
You tagged a cute dancer from dancing recently, right? That means you're in the game.
>>Right now I’m thinking about taking signed up for a photography class to start when I return
Wonder if the photo class will have some cute arty girls in it or if it will be neckbeards. Cooking classes might also be good...
Everyone has a theory about nutrition and everyone is n=1 but I have found focusing on food composition much more important than counting calories.
>>More than likely, the old me cannot exist to reach new levels
In my view life is a series of deaths and rebirths, until the final death... psychedelics sometimes facilitate this...
lol All good. I took it as a challenge. I've been scared to cut, because I do have a small frame. I'm letting go of that fear. I'm being a bit pessimistic in my post, but I do think there is value in maxing out in this area. If I follow through over a consistent period of time I think it will be worth it. Even if it is just for my own satisfaction. It might force me to reevaluate my fashion later this year.
>> Pay attention to guys with hot chicks
I have seen this within the dance realm, very closely. I think what I'm questioning now, is what do I want to be extraordinary at. It's not dance. Also, it needs to be something I want to do for myself. Not to get girls. I also keep thinking that I'm running out of time. By the time I get good at something that chicks care about, I won't care about them anymore. So whatever it is needs to be useful to me whether or not girls are in my life.
>> You tagged a cute dancer
Yea, I just need to repeat. She's in another city. We're making plans for another tryst soon. That should be interesting if it happens. Out of town girls are the story of my life. I'm a fun stranger in an unknown city. It would be nice to connect with someone that lives in the same city for something fun. I am nothing to normal girls in the same city, even though in reality I'm better than them in a variety of ways. Maybe dickheadish of me to say, but that's what I think.
>> Wonder if the photo class will have some cute arty girls in it
I wonder... I'm going to find out!
>>Everyone has a theory about nutrition
I have no idea what I'm doing. This will be an experiment, for sure.
>>In my view life is a series of deaths and rebirths, until the final death... psychedelics sometimes facilitate this...
Indeed. I'm in these circles now that I'm mostly moved on from dance... just hesitating to take the plunge.
I think that on RQ I'm way more impolitic than I sometimes am in real life... there's often a time and place for outrageous statements... and a time to hold them back, and post them to a psuedononymous blog...
>> Pay attention to guys with hot chicks
>I have seen this within the dance realm, very closely. I think what I'm questioning now, is what do I want to be extraordinary at
Right, it's pretty much everywhere. Guys with exceptional game/social skills / frame / self-belief / accomplishments can overcome it. Same with guys in the right place and time. Or guys w/ some kind of fame/status, etc.
For most guys, IMO and IME, getting the basics right is key... and that means nutrition... which leads to being HWP...
Bad moods are tough.
>>I mentioned my stats and he said I was fat
I did not use that word! "weight might be a big challenge / blockage" can be seen as equivalent, but I can phrase things more delicately...
The general debugging point is to start with the easy or obvious stuff and move on from there. In game terms, while working on the interpersonal (approaches, banter, cold reads, etc.), it is also useful to check weight / fashion / posture / etc.
Success is sometimes a matter of fixing a series of problems.
As you have likely seen in your life, most people approximately image match, https://theredquest.substack.com/p/sonny-arvado-and-pancake-mouse-on-the-image-match-and-reciprocity
Getting better girls usually means a guy raising his own value. Sometimes it means the guy having something extraordinary about him... could be fame, wealth, social skills, local status (he's a locally known DJ, whatever). Pay attention to guys with hot chicks, especially a succession of hot chicks, and there is almost always something extraordinary in one domain, or he's above average in a bunch of domains, including social skills, fearlessness in the face of rejection, etc.
Every guy I'm aware of who has tried online dating and cold approach finds higher quality from meeting girls in real life. The exception might be super photogenic chads who can do either but the # of super photogenic chads is small.
Many of the best chicks I've ever been with have said that they have never done online. Huge adverse selection problem with online, particularly 25+.
You tagged a cute dancer from dancing recently, right? That means you're in the game.
>>Right now I’m thinking about taking signed up for a photography class to start when I return
Wonder if the photo class will have some cute arty girls in it or if it will be neckbeards. Cooking classes might also be good...
Everyone has a theory about nutrition and everyone is n=1 but I have found focusing on food composition much more important than counting calories.
>>More than likely, the old me cannot exist to reach new levels
In my view life is a series of deaths and rebirths, until the final death... psychedelics sometimes facilitate this...
>> I did not use that word!
lol All good. I took it as a challenge. I've been scared to cut, because I do have a small frame. I'm letting go of that fear. I'm being a bit pessimistic in my post, but I do think there is value in maxing out in this area. If I follow through over a consistent period of time I think it will be worth it. Even if it is just for my own satisfaction. It might force me to reevaluate my fashion later this year.
>> Pay attention to guys with hot chicks
I have seen this within the dance realm, very closely. I think what I'm questioning now, is what do I want to be extraordinary at. It's not dance. Also, it needs to be something I want to do for myself. Not to get girls. I also keep thinking that I'm running out of time. By the time I get good at something that chicks care about, I won't care about them anymore. So whatever it is needs to be useful to me whether or not girls are in my life.
>> You tagged a cute dancer
Yea, I just need to repeat. She's in another city. We're making plans for another tryst soon. That should be interesting if it happens. Out of town girls are the story of my life. I'm a fun stranger in an unknown city. It would be nice to connect with someone that lives in the same city for something fun. I am nothing to normal girls in the same city, even though in reality I'm better than them in a variety of ways. Maybe dickheadish of me to say, but that's what I think.
>> Wonder if the photo class will have some cute arty girls in it
I wonder... I'm going to find out!
>>Everyone has a theory about nutrition
I have no idea what I'm doing. This will be an experiment, for sure.
>>In my view life is a series of deaths and rebirths, until the final death... psychedelics sometimes facilitate this...
Indeed. I'm in these circles now that I'm mostly moved on from dance... just hesitating to take the plunge.
I think that on RQ I'm way more impolitic than I sometimes am in real life... there's often a time and place for outrageous statements... and a time to hold them back, and post them to a psuedononymous blog...
>> Pay attention to guys with hot chicks
>I have seen this within the dance realm, very closely. I think what I'm questioning now, is what do I want to be extraordinary at
Right, it's pretty much everywhere. Guys with exceptional game/social skills / frame / self-belief / accomplishments can overcome it. Same with guys in the right place and time. Or guys w/ some kind of fame/status, etc.
For most guys, IMO and IME, getting the basics right is key... and that means nutrition... which leads to being HWP...