More dates, some tea, and a bit of skin care
Date #9: Yesterday I had a date with a cutie with a booty. I mean tik (thick)! Mid-twenties. I don’t know how I’d ever meet this girl outside of apps. She doesn’t go out except with her friends, family, or to the gym. And she seems to Uber most places, especially to avoid the gremlins on the street at night. Some girls want to connect, but they just don’t go out like that. Daddy’s girl to a T. That should be interesting. We connected over a challenge I have in my profile1. If there’s a second date, it’s on!
Last night’s objective was to show the girl a good time. That’s it. Limited sex talk, but she seems down and not a prude. It wasn’t a super “on” date like some of the most recent ones felt like, but seems like someone I’d spend a bit of time with; both with clothes on and off.
I usually stay in one spot, but experimented with bouncing the girl. I bounced her from a bar with a really nice ambience and a buzzing crowd to the quiet wine bar close to my place. It was easier to hear her and see her at this place. I could tell she was getting sleepy after the first glass, so I called it a night. We both projected future plans; not something I usually do, but f**k it, I’m experimenting. Trying to mainly “stick to the script”, but this part of the process is robotic to me. Although I do find it interesting to meet new people and to start to put together their story. I do want to get to the juicy parts though… in time young grasshopper.
Date 8: *Update first: Course corrected what would have been another unnecessary miss. I think I was planning to leave it, but once I came to my senses, it’s more important that I speak up for myself and ask for what I want. She also doesn’t drink. For me, if the date volume continues as such, I want to limit my alcohol consumption as well. It’s not ideal for the gains.
I was thinking and I’m not really feeling dinner if we’re not making it. Would you be open to mocktails?
There’s an option that took a while to come to me. She is down.
Early thirties. Dancer/yoga body. Cute, brown ting. For the first date, we had tea and went on a walk. On this particular day, I was feeling unusually chatty. She seemed dry, personality-wise, but because I was in a chatty mood, it wasn’t long before she seemed to open up. This one has some layers I want to peel back. Lots of laughter and jokes from me on that day. Didn’t really sexualize the conversations here. We had fun (I need this right now. We probably both do.), bouncing around the neighborhood and squatted in a nearby bar before she had to go. She again, seemed keen to meet. Another one that seems super cool, but the chances of us connecting on the street seem slim to none with schedule/lifestyle.
Lesson: Reflecting on these two instances where the girl seemed super keen, I messed up by not setting any boundaries in order to move things forward for the potential lay. And going over the top. Keep it simple. I was in a rush. The end of a long drought seemed imminent. I need to calm down, ground, and stick to the script. I can get fancy later, when I’m more advanced. Even then, less is more.
Skin-care: Also, went to the esthetician for the first time. I did an initial assessment for face, beard, and back. Felt good and needed some self care after I beat myself up all week. The back massage was fire. Will be going monthly for face and back.
Date #7: Hilarious, for reasons I won’t discuss. Overall, not interested.
Date #6: Nothing special. Not interested.
Apparently girls like fun challenges.