ナンパしようぜ。- At it again
Another day of trying to pickup girls and the lessons along the way
12 approaches
2 maybe numbers
2 blowouts
My objective today was to do strong approaches and to persist a few times before giving up the set. Also wanted to approach the super pretty girls. I like assthetics.
Took a while for me to get going. Skipped a lot of sets early on.
Approach 1: Really hot Asian chick. Long hair. “Excuse me.” She speeds up.”What’s your name?” She speeds up again. I let her go. Started kinda weak. “Excuse me” feels weak.
Approach 2: Tall Asian chick with wavy hair. I turn around and walk up to her and wave. She bites. I wasn’t expecting her to stop so there was a bit of silence there. Mostly logical conversation. I would pause after each statement/question, and she kept around so I kept talking. Found out she’s a student on her way to the library to study for a big test. Cali girl. I told her we should grab drinks after her test. She said maybe. I said, “Maybe?!” As soon as I said that she changed her mind about giving me her number. I said, “Look, go study and when you’re finished with your test let’s do something fun.” I don’t think I will hear anything from her.
Approach 3: Tourist from France in a fur coat. Walked with her for a bit. Didn’t really persist with this one.
Approach 4: Japanese chick. Walked with her for a while. Wasn’t sure if I wanted to open her or not. She had an interesting style and since she was a couple steps behind me I decided to talk to her. Apparently she was getting her eyelashes done. I kept asking her “Why?” Mixed in some Japanese into the conversation. When she finally got to her destination, she was trying to tell me she was going to leave in a month. I pressed her like two times. On the third and final time I was like, “これは一期一会でしょう。君が可愛いって思ったから話をかけて。。1。so we should hang out before you go.“ Again, she gave me the number, but I don’t see it going anywhere.
Made my way down to the hardest place to DG imo.
Approach 5: WV girl. Waved. She responded, but said she was going to dinner with family. Got split up in the crowd. Tried to persist. She said she’s in a rush. I let her go.
Approach 6: Slim blonde. Blue eyes. Didn’t really stop. I could tell she was being nice. Probably wasn’t her type. Eventually told me she had a bf.
Approach 7: Cute black chick in leather. Very matter of factly, “I have to get back to work.”
Approach 8: Looked at me. Dodged.
Approach 9: Cute white chick glasses, long brown hair. Probably a student. She stopped. Talk with some lulls in the conversation. When I told her why I stopped her, she said she had a bf.
Approach 10: Blowout
Approach 11: Black Irish chick. Super cute. I saw her look in my direction. Fun convo, but leaving in a few days. Won’t have time to meet again.
Approach 12: Dark glasses. Vape. “I’m trying to get to know you.” She shook her finger. “I’m not trying to get to know anyone.” I laughed and let her go.
I had two light bulb moments today:
I value my solitude. I need it - After a few frustrating dates and daygame sessions I didn’t feel like talking to anybody. I spent the week in solitude, and by the 6th day I was feeling recharged and ready to go again. I need that ebb and flow to keep going. To keep me fresh.
My main sticking point is that I don’t fully understand what I’m “fighting” for. Why am I trying to flip frames and persist past objections? For the first time I’m understanding what it means to “fight”. I’m sure there are a variety of ways to acquire these skills, but seems like skills that people with siblings learn early on. I generally err on, if I don’t like something I leave. Why waste my breath? Maybe this is my “privilege” or me just being a dickhead. If something is bothering me, I leave. If I realize I don’t have the upper hand or never had the upper hand in a situation, I leave. If I don’t agree, why argue when I can say ‘Ok. Whatever.’ and leave? The question is, how can I have relationships (romantic or otherwise) if this is my attitude? How can I get the better quality girls if this is my attitude? Even if they have nothing else to offer me besides spreading their legs, they’re going to try to protect whatever value they do have. Even if a girl starts out as a “Yes” girl, stick with her long enough and I’m sure there will be periods of “maybe” and maybe even “no”, depending on her emotions. How would I handle that? As someone that doesn’t like conflict, and enjoys his solitude this is something that I’m going to have to battle with and chip away at. Right now I don’t want a girlfriend, but what if in the future I do? If I never build up the skill set, my goose is cooked. It feels dumb not being a fully functional man at this age2. And even if I never want one again, it’s good for business and other relationships.
This is a once in a lifetime moment. I thought you cute, that’s why I spoke to you.
Still trying to give myself grace since these things must be developed deliberately and I did not have the exposure or previous knowledge to understand what traits should be developed.