Thanks to NightRoller’s post, I joined Pancake Mouse’s groupchat. Gaming solo at a beginner level is hard. I’ve made some progress, but there’s nothing like working in a group. There’s also nothing like getting person feedback. I could write forever, but there are so many things I won’t/can’t show here.
I shadowed Dante today. Watched him save sets as he trained one of his students, and even watched him do a few of his own. Good energy and the real deal. Very detailed. This is probably what I’ve been looking for in terms of being able to watch someone really execute game well. It’s one thing to talk theory, but it’s another to practice and execute. This guy does it.
Usually I’m in my head and don’t approach. I’m only closing “Yes” girls and girls that approach me. Since I was in a group and overall feeling good I didn’t have much A. Did 6 sets.
Set 1: On the train. I was feeling eager, and decided to take some sets of my own. This was one of them. Super cute. Opened her because we were trying to help a lady find her way to her destination in Spanish. Neither of us were able to help her, but I decided to help myself. I opened with a remark like, “Well, we tried. Where are you headed? Doing your weekend shopping?” We exchanged names, but then we both we getting off. She was with her “brother”. Tried to get the number, but she said she had a boyfriend.
Set 2: Korean chick. Had Headphones on. I’ve never approached a girl with headphones before. I’m too logical. I opened with “What are you listening to?” Instead, maybe a better opener would be to make an assumption about what she’s listening to, and let her react. Also, I didn’t stop her. So we kept moving. I can’t remember what she told me, but I peeled off quickly.
Set 3: European chick. Very hard, masculine. Couldn’t stop her. “Where are you coming from, the gym?” Again, this probably would’ve been better as an observation. “Looks like you’re coming from the gym.” She replied with, “I’m on my way to work.” I walked with her for a bit. She said she just broke up with her boyfriend. Peeled off.
Set 4: Two Brazilian chicks. I chose this set. I couldn’t help myself. I was too nice, but made them laugh - if that counts for anything.
Set 5: Shorty with headphones on. Complete blow out. I tried to get her attention. Then I leaned in, instead of turning around in front of her. She pushed right past me. Ufff!
Set 6: Another one I chose. Uncalibrated. She was married and her husband was walking a few steps behind.
I got a lot of good, honest feedback in real time from Dante and one of his friends.
My main takeways:
I need to work on my presence and edge. I’m practically invisible. Based on my observation, when a girl can feel your presence she will react when you make the stop.
The girls I opened today were hotter than girls I’d normally match with on OLD and “Yes” girls that approach me or that give me enough IOI (indicators of interest) that it’s a layup. This is what I want. These are the chicks that I want to lure back to my lair.
Before, I often led with the limiting belief that she’s not going to be into me, for whatever reason. TIL:
“She’s not into you, until you make her into you.”
- Dante
I’m going to keep putting myself out there.
MM taking action. This is where the rubber (theory) meets the road (application). The best lessons will be revealed in the most depth for you as you practice.