Hitting It Off with an Impact Scene (FR)

Deeper into the party scene

Objective: Make some new connections.

Constraint(s): No sex in the champagne room. I’ve decided I want to slow down and really understand what I’m doing without rushing into sex.

The Raw Deal:

I started off chatting with groups of people. Good conversation questions were, “How long have you been in the Lifestyle?” “Have you been to this place before?” “What brought you out tonight?” “Tell me more about...” That night there seemed to be lots of new people. Or maybe I ran into all the new people. Either way, people were looking to connect. Not everyone knew how, and it reminded me that we’re all just trying to do our best. We’re all trying to figure it out.

I started getting into a good conversation with one lady. A bit older than I’d like, but I found myself getting drawn to her as we shared the details of our lives. I’m starting to pick up on different phases of the conversation. The beginning always feels very exploratory, sometimes awkward. At some point, it either fizzles out or our bodies become magnets. With this particular lady I felt that. The conversation began to flow with ease, and we started finding ways to connect to the next thread. And the next.

In improv, there’s something called “A to C thinking.” What that means is, when you hear a word or idea (A), you choose to forego the obvious next thing it makes you think of (B) and instead, go for what that makes you think of (C), without ever letting anyone see that you thought of B.

So for example, maybe she said something about Vermont, which makes me think of the outdoors, and then we start talking about skiing. Next thing you know, you’ve lost track of time and you feel like you’ve known this person you just met forever.

Standing in the same spot, a new set of characters appeared. One guy and one girl. The girl was nerdy, thick, cute and tatted. I dug it. As we were mid-conversation I whipped out my paddle that is shaped like a hand, and she seemed intrigued. “Can I touch you?” I asked. She responded with an enthusiastic yes. I grazed her arm with my paddle for a bit before returning to the group conversation. I can’t remember the specifics of our conversation, but something lit up in both of our eyes as the three of us spoke. We exchanged what felt like secret glances. I asked their names again, and excused myself.

Next, I saw a girl sitting down across the room. She looked a bit withdrawn, with the best RBF I’ve seen at party; for some reason I decided to go say hi. She immediately said, “I’m small talked out. I think I’m becoming more of an introvert these days.” Usually I would take this as my queue to leave. Instead I asked her, “May I sit next to you?” “I’m generally an introvert myself, but I’m trying to get out of my comfort zone.” From there we got to talking and turns out we had a few things in common. Ended up exchanging numbers, and will try setting up a date.

Then I ran into the tatted nerd a few times. The first time we were watching the “action” and she asked if she could kiss me. Ok, something is rising as we kiss. Good to know. I was getting ready to head out, but we were kind of lingering in the same space. So I asked her “Are you in the mood for anything before I leave?” I had already explained to her that I’m not having sex, so it was clear that was not on the table. She pointed to the paddle in my back pocket. There was a bit of an awkward exchange, because she started to lead the interaction, and then she stepped back and allowed me to guide her across the room. She’s done this before. I appreciate her “allowing” me to lead her. This was my first time doing something like this.

The Scene:

She told me I could have her however I like, so I kissed her and started undressing her. I turned her around and had her put her hands against the wall and spread her legs. I started off lightly stroking her body with my paddle. Gentle grazes across her breasts. Gentle grazes down the back of her leg. Gentle grazes on her ass, and down her back. Then I add a bit of fire. This time instead of grazes, pats. In between pats, I would give hard slaps. Then mix hard slaps with rubs on her ass and outer thighs. Occasionally I would hold her close, kiss her, and give her a few slaps on the ass. I’d whisper in her ear to check in or to give a bit of dirty talk. As for the cool down, I hugged her from behind and synchronized our breathes. We ended with a deep, warm embrace.

The scene was very freeing for me. The red lights, the ambience… I was locked in and I couldn’t tell there was anyone else around. I swayed as I traced her body with the paddle. It was a moment of being able to let go for what seemed like forever, but was probably only a couple of minutes.

It was a great night. Next time I see her I’ll ask for some feedback so I can up my impact game.